Help for Men Living With Domestic Abuse
At Scottish Women’s Aid, we believe abuse is never acceptable and no-one should feel scared, hurt or intimidated by anyone else.
While we work to the definition of domestic abuse used by the Scottish Government, the UN and the EU, which identifies that many more women than men experience domestic abuse, we recognise that men can be affected too.
If you are a man, or know a man who is experiencing any form of abuse, please contact one of the organisations listed below. These resources subscribe to the Respect UK guidelines, and as such, are endorsed by Scottish Women’s Aid.
Men’s Advice Line - 0808 801 0327 (10am-1pm and 2-5pm Monday to Friday)
Respect phoneline - 0808 802 4040 - A confidential helpline for domestic abuse perpetrators.
Rape Crisis Scotland - 08088 01 03 02 - Provides crisis support for anyone in Scotland affected by sexual violence at any time in their lives.
NHS Open Road - 0141 420 7284 - A service for men of any age who perform sexual acts in exchange for some form of payment. This payment could be money, but equally could take the form of drinks, drugs, consumer goods, or a bed or roof over your head for the night.
For general support on men’s health and well being:
Breathing Space – 0800 838587 - Breathing Space is a free, confidential phone and web based service for people in Scotland experiencing low mood, depression or anxiety.
Samaritans – 08457 909090 or send an email - A confidential emotional support service for anyone in the UK and Ireland. The service is available 24 hours a day for people who are experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those which may lead to suicide.
Why don't we provide support services for men?
We are often questioned on why we don’t campaign for, and our groups do not provide support services for men.
There is a wealth of research showing the importance of specialised services, and therefore, groups affiliated to Scottish Women’s Aid must remain specialised – providing services to women, children and young people. Women tell us that they want to be supported by women-only services, that they would be intimidated by male workers, and we would not want to make any change which would inhibit someone from seeking support.
This is not discriminatory – merely seeking to provide the most appropriate support services to victims of domestic abuse. We also support the maintenance of funding to the Men’s Advice Line as a specialist service dealing with the particular issues faced by men experiencing domestic abuse.